I wasn't in the mood to write anything here yesterday. I was totally not in the mood because something awful happened yesterday evening to a good friend of mine. Something that made me think more seriously about marriage.
What happened to her is not something new. I've heard of cases like this hundreds of times before. And it makes me sick to the stomach just thinking about it. Tried my best to console her wounded heart. But I know, mere words is not going to help much. I know it will take more than that to help her get over the trauma. I can't imagine if something like that were to happen to me. I would probably loose my mind for a while.
Times like this, we seek to Allah for guidance and peace of mind. InsyaAllah, He will help us find our way. Whatever the trauma.......it will pass. In the mean time, we just have to be patient and stay calm. No point in getting angry.....no point in getting upset about it. What is done is done. Nothing can change what has already happened. The damage is already done. We just have to be brave.....and carry on living....put the past behind and move forward. It's easier said than done.....I know........but the truth is, that's the only thing we can do.....just move forward.......take good care of ourselves, be kind to ourselves and love ourselves. We deserve to have a good life.
We deserve to be happy. Whatever bad thing people had done to us, just leave it all to Allah to take care of it. Because sometimes, we just can't handle it ourselves.....it's beyond our control. Just try to forget and move on with our lives. If they don't love you anymore, it's ok because........always remember, Allah loves you......now and always.
3 comments:
Hi, Lin.
Quite true - the things that happen to us, our friends and to people in this world are completely out of our control. And totally in the control of God.
No matter what the trauma is - we have to leave it to God, let him handle it and move on. You are right on about this one.
Please explain this gently to your friend.
Barb
As one who has heard a husband say he is in love with someone else, I would have loved a friend to come alongside me, hug me, let me cry, and cry with me. Many, many times. It takes a long time to heal from a hurt like that.
Very true Sandi....it takes a long long long time to heal...only God knows when the healing process will be over. I've never been married before so I can't ever truly understand the severity of the pain felt by those who have gone through this. I hope I will never have to go through such things if I ever get married one day.
As for my friend, all I can do now for her is to be there for her in this time when she needs me most. She needs all the love and support she can get. I do whatever I can to help....the rest I leave it to God.
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